So the customer said to me. He didn't look like he wanted to be there. He gave me a scowl like it was all my fault that he was being forced to look over the rings. Now, I don't have a problem with people buying a ring from a pawn shop--in fact, I encourage it. Jewelers are way overpriced. What I do have a problem with, is men thinking their girlfriends aren't worth a little bit of money.
It's one thing to be hard up for money. It's another thing to be cheap. This guy was just cheap. Trust me, after all, I was there.
So I directed him to our jewelry counter. He directed his ugly scowl at the glass, and growled:
"Where's the ones under fifty dollars?"
I gave an inward sigh, tired of this guy's lack of manners, and his obvious distain for getting engaged. I really couldn't understand why he was there at all. Shotgun wedding, pressure from her--who knows. I just happened to be the person he was focusing his frustration at. And I didn't like it.
It didn't take him long to decide. It was even under his price range, and the right size to boot. He paid for it with the same scowl he'd been wearing all the fifteen minutes it took to find the ring she would supposedly wear the rest of her life. Many marriages nowadays have short life-spans. Sadly.
So my grumpy soon-to-be-engaged customer left the store, and left me with an feeling of irritation and exasperation over one thing:
The lack of chivalry in society today.
I tell my coworkers all the time, and I'm sure they're tired of hearing it--but I'M tired of seeing my point proven time and time again: Chivarly is dead, and it was probably killed by feminism. Feminism, in the world, with a strong sense of individualism and "I'm-not-helpless." (Sorry, bit of "Clue" humor there).
Now, I once had to read an extremely boring book about the origins of Chivalry. There really isn't anything glamourous about it, but the underlying ideals were pretty good; be virtuous, considerate, honest, humble, loyal, etc. All great things, and not all those things are gone from society today.
However, alot of the respect given towards women that traditional Chivary so strongly upheld, has dissipated in modern society. Women are objectified. I cannot stand how media nowadays feels such a strong urge to throw sex and nudity into everything. It's degrading. For a world that supports feminism, it sure allows women to become nothing more than entertainment.
I'll try not to rant too long on such a subject. All I want, is respect (from men and women) to reappear. It doesn't hurt me to open my own door, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't appreciate a guy to do it occasionally. Also, I can probably carry most objects--but a guy offering his help would mean alot. I might not accept all the time, but I would always be grateful for it.
So men, I'll make you a deal. I'll stop berating you for lack of consideration, if you remember that once in a while, I really do appreciate genuine offers of help and respect. ;)
So back to my customer: that same guy, wearing the same scowl, came back into my store about five hours after purchasing the ring.
"She said no," he mumbled, and dropped the ring and receipt into my hand.
I wonder why.
So I'm not so foolish as to expect a knight in shining armor. I'm not perfect, and I don't expect any man to be. But I am a daughter of God, and I expect to be treated as such.
Be the bigger man--take that higher road. -Lola
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